I can’t seem to recall a single Lahori winter when I didn’t have to attend at least one Shaadi and this year it was my turn. Getting married means a never-ending list of things that you need to get done and somehow this list only seems to get longer as the date gets closer. Of course you’ll have your friends and family to help but being the bride means that there are certain decisions that require your complete attention. These include:
- The Bridal Dress
It’s perfectly normal to be extremely picky about what you’re going to wear on your big day because it’s important to feel comfortable and happy with they way you look. However, the sooner you decide your outfit the better. This is because most designers require you to place your orders at least 3 months prior to your wedding date.
- The Make-Up Artist
Different make-up artists have their own signature styles and its advisable to study these before you finalize your artist. I actually took screenshots of brides to show my make-up artist the kind of look I wanted to ensure we would be on the same page.
- The Bridal Jewelry
No bridal look is complete without the bridal jewelry and the bride’s input is definitely essential in deciding what kind of jewelry she would like to wear to complement her clothes and make-up.
- The Photographers, Videographers & Couple Shoot Location
Having a photographer, videographer and a location that you are comfortable with is key because you wouldn’t want your awkwardness to translate into your photographs. I would also advise you to openly let your photographer know about your “good side” or any insecurities you might have so your pictures turn out exactly as you would like.
- The Event location, Caterers & Décor
These are departments your family will be actively involved in but they might be hesitant to finalize anything without your approval. Thus your presence and input at all related meetings will be essential.
Everything mentioned above is directly related to your actual wedding day but everyone knows desi weddings don’t just begin and end with your Barat and Walima. Prepare yourself to completely empty your calendar and open up your home for at least a month before your actual Shaadi for the dholki’s, dance practices and guests that will be pouring in.
While this may sound exhausting, don’t forget that these will be the most memorable days of your life. Your Barat and Walima day will be so fully packed that they’ll pass by in the glimpse of an eye. It is sitting in a circle singing the same old songs with your family or staying up nights getting your friends and family to perfect their coordinated dances that you’ll look back at most fondly so enjoy those days to the fullest.
